The Hidden Curse Of Being Hot
- Kiki Help
- Sep 24
- 2 min read
The Hidden Curse of Being Hot
We all joke about wanting to be the “hot friend.” The one who never pays for drinks, gets Insta likes just by breathing, and always has people sliding into their DMs. But here’s the part no one admits out loud: being hot can actually ruin your life in ways nobody prepares you for.
Sounds dramatic? Let me tell you a story.
The bathroom breakdown
Picture this: you’re out with friends, someone takes a group photo, and boom — you catch yourself at a weird angle. Everyone else thinks you look amazing, but all you see is that one side of your face you hate. Next thing you know, you’re locked in a bathroom stall trying to fix your eyeliner and stop the spiral. Hot people aren’t immune to insecurities; if anything, they get magnified under the weight of constant “you’re so pretty” expectations.
Dating: is it love or a trophy hunt?
Let’s be real — dating when you’re hot is a mess. Half the time, people don’t actually like you. They like the idea of being able to say, “Look who I pulled.” You’re not a person; you’re a shiny accessory. And when you realize it, it stings. You start questioning everyone’s motives. Is this connection real, or am I just a flex on their Instagram story?
Friends, but make it competitive
Even friendships can get messy. Maybe you’ve been put on a pedestal as “the pretty one,” which sounds nice until you realize it makes you feel less like a friend and more like a prop. Or worse: your own mates start competing with you — copying outfits, undercutting your confidence, or subtly turning everything into a game of comparison. It’s exhausting.
So… what’s the solution?
Here’s the truth bomb: being hot isn’t the cheat code. It’s hard mode — just with prettier lighting. The way out isn’t to hide your looks or downplay yourself, it’s to shift the focus:
Detach your confidence from your appearance. Instead of letting validation live in the mirror, build it through what you create, how you love, and the energy you bring into a room.
Check your relationships. If someone’s with you for clout, not connection, let them go. Protect your peace.
Reclaim pleasure for yourself. When you stop performing “hot” for everyone else and start enjoying it for you, that’s when the real glow-up happens.
Kiki’s Take
Being hot is complicated. But feeling hot? That’s yours to own. Whether it’s a self-care ritual, a night in with something that’s just for you, or saying no to people who drain you — confidence starts when you stop chasing external approval and start living for your own joy.
👉 Ready to flip the script? Explore Kiki’s collection — designed to make you feel powerful, playful, and untouchable (bad angles and all).
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